Tuesday, March 25, 2025

Loving It

I have been loving my 10 item wardrobe, ahem, I mean 13. It has been amazing. I feel great every morning and I get to wear my favorite pieces of clothing without digging and feeling overburdened or overwhelmed. Everything goes with everything. It's peace, and I like it. When I originally set it up I got rid of a huge bag of things I knew I would never wear again and today I got rid of three more small bags--two I donated and one I gave to a friend. Oh, and I started asking people to hang out again even if they are busy and I have a playdate with one good friend tomorrow and something already set up for next week! And I'm going to make a point to make it to co-op and Reuben starts football practice too... so many good things on the horizon. God is good and he is reminding me always that I am not alone, if I but turn my eyes to him. 

I really wanted to shop on thred up yesterday and I didn't. I remembered my promise to buy no clothes and went and looked at my closet and was content! I hope I can keep with my self-inflicted challenge!! For fun I pulled out all my summer pieces and put them in two empty dresser drawers so they are ready and able to be swapped out if it starts getting consistently over 80f. 


I want to make a point to make it to the park once to twice a week with the kids this summer. If I get pregnant again things might really slow down (we aren't trying) but hey it could happen and I want to soak up the time I have while I have it. The kids are at an age where they love the park and Reuben and Becky can play pretty much independently while I do the slide 30 times with Esther, hah. She's adorable. In a year or three Reuben will be 'too old' for the park even if we still go--I see some older kids there reading books next to their moms while littles play--but I want him to enjoy it while he can. 

Trying to have good boundaries with my phone lately. I still have parental controls on it and I have played around with turning the internet off at times but I always want to look something up or need to distract the baby with Bluey and its just nice to have on hand as long as I don't become a screen zombie or start using it to disassociate from my life...it's a tool, and I want to remember that. And use it as thus. 

It's raining now so I put a movie on for the kids while I wrote this post. It's a nice little break in the day before I go down and finish cleaning up the dining room, kitchen...and a load or two of laundry to switch out and put away, and some things to get ready for tomorrow. I want to make sourdough pretzel bites and I have those in my cooking-attempt list. I made an azure order and can't wait to pick it up next week. We are out of so many things that this time around was quite a big order!

Trying to build a life I love, even with the hurdles and obstacles that living throws at you. God is good and I"ll be okay, I trust him.

How are you all?

Monday, March 24, 2025

10 item Spring Wardrobe (while breastfeeding!)

If you know me at all, you know I struggle with overconsumption. I actually made a pledge on the first day of spring to buy zero clothes for the rest of the year and to use what I have. I have a closet bursting with clothing. It's overflowing and overwhelming and yet I still buy things and can't find anything to wear and am unhappy about my clothes and how they look on me. 

I realized that my problem of overconsumption is twofold. One, my love language is gifts. So when I am upset or having a hard time I buy myself a gift. Sometimes it is as small as a chocolate bar but sometimes it's a new or thrifted shirt. And in this economy with how bad the inflation is, that just isn't doable anymore. I know I have struggled with shopping addictions before too--shopping from boredom or from a place of depression, and I'd like to nip that in the bud as well. We don't have credit cards and I'm not in debt anymore, so I don't know if I can call it an addiction any longer, but I still struggle with shopping.

My other issue is a body one. My body is not the same as it was pre-Esther pregnancy, and that's okay. My body grew a whole baby! Amazing. And it looks like it grew a whole baby for the third time! And I'm thirty eight years old! This is expected and typical and I don't know why my brain expects me to be trim everywhere and perpetually thirty-two! 

I find when I don clothes they don't look on me like how I thought in my head they would look. There is a discrepancy and I must address it because I keep buying clothes hoping that "this time" it will turn out different. I unconsciously wasn't blaming my body and my body dysmorphia but instead the clothes. And that has to stop.

So this year I would like to learn to love my body. And that starts with the 10 item spring wardrobe challenge! I do love a wardrobe challenge and have done several in the past but nothing ever sticks. I am hoping that this one will. In this challenge you pick 10 core pieces and then you can add extras to flesh it out, like sweaters or other layering pieces. There is probably more to it--I didn't read the book I just watched a few YouTube videos about it. 

Here is what I picked for my spring 10 item capsule wardrobe, which I will use until summer when I'll refresh it with what I already own in my closet. I'm super excited about this and hope it works out!

I picked five dresses. Five may be a little excessive but I love dresses and I had so many this was as small I could get it without wishing to abandon the whole project. Here they are! I have two not perfect linen dresses, both thrifted from postmark. One other linen dress (the stripy short blue one) is a gift from a friend. The brown dress is also from postmark, it is a Daughters of India dress that I thrifted from there for around $60. I couldn't believe someone was selling it for that--until I got it and it was covered in stains and holes. I was so mad they didn't disclose these issues. I could have sent it back but instead I tried my best to get out the stains (some did some out) and I sewed up the holes and...that was kinda what made me start the 'no buying clothing' for a year trend. But here it is in my capsule. The multicolored dress is from an Etsy shop called off/on linen and I love it. 

I picked four bottoms, of one I am obviously wearing right now so it's not pictured. I have a green skirt and a brown one (I'm wearing the brown) and a black pair of pants and an orange pair of pants. 

I have five shirts, including the one I am wearing, which is handmade. Anyway, that makes 13 items, but who's counting? Okay, we are supposed to be counting. But this was as low as I could get it. Actually in the above closet picture I have one more shirt hanging up that I removed and put away! (The tan on with the ruffles, I'm going to save it for summer.) So maybe I will be able to remove 3 pieces to actually get down to 10, but this is pretty good for now. 

The black shirt in the photo is really worn out and needs to be replaced soon. I like to have a dark shirt because it goes with everything, and this is the only one I have. It's a cotton gauze shirt that my friend gave me. I'll try to keep wearing it since I am not supposed to be buying anything new or used this year--but maybe I can sub in my linen shirt that is dark that I use only for exercise right now? That might be an option when this one completely runs out. 

Here are my extras: I have three sweaters I will use as layering pieces. I can also wear these as shirts. These are my two handmade sweaters and one black wrap cardigan that I love because it goes with everything. I also have (not pictured) two cotton black leggings I wear under dresses when it is cold and one cotton black "shorts" I also wear under a dress if I feel I'll be running around and it might fly up. 

I'm not sure if PJs count as extras. I sleep in a nursing shirt and a pair of sleep pants and have just enough pairs to take me through the week. I wash laundry once a week and plan to keep on doing that even with a smaller wardrobe. 

I hope after doing this all spring I will find I can declutter most of my other spring clothes, keeping only a few to "switch out" when my regular 10 item wardrobe needs a piece replaced. 

What about you? Would you try a 10-item wardrobe and why or why not? And should I read the book?  I probably should read the book. I wonder if they have it on audible...

Saturday, March 22, 2025

hat for Reuben

Do you ever start crocheting with no plan in mind? Just to do something with your hands from boredom or idleness or because? That is how this hat started out with stash yarn and a 4.5mm hook. I love it! Reuben also loved it and snapped it up as soon as I was done with it. 



I have a few things I need to finish up but sometimes the only thing you want to do is start on something new.